It’s strange to watch you now, now that I am no longer one of you. I see things more clearly than I did before. It seems there are two camps: those whose lives appear to be perfect, never letting frustration dealing with the ministry seep through your Facebook posts, blogs, or emails; and those who [...]

Okay, I confess, I peeked ahead a little last week when I was trying to figure out whether or not Jesus’ disciples actually followed his instructions. He does send them off, but not to cities, and reading ahead, I realized something: I don’t like Jesus. At least, I don’t like Matthew’s perspective of Jesus. It’s [...]

Goshdarnit, I had another moment. I haven’t had one in awhile. I don’t even remember the last one. My own damn fault for getting carried away in some ministry blogs/Facebook notes.
They make everything look okay. Like life turned out just fine for them, and it probably did. Are they honest? I couldn’t tell, but I [...]

To outsiders looking in, conservative Christianity seems to demean women, yet women often say that they don’t feel that way at all–that being submissive has helped their marriage and they feel empowered and protected. To the outside world, they proclaim how wonderful it is to submit. But the reality is more secretive than that; that [...]

Even though it all fell apart, and  while most of these didn’t last, there were things I liked about being a Christian while they did. Here  are five:
1. Church events: I had a lot of fun at church parties.
2. My youth group: in 8th grade, I had the best youth group ever. They helped keep [...]

I’ve been thinking about the rather depressing turn my blog has taken over the last few weeks. It’s not really me. I don’t mope around all day. I’m actually pretty hyper! I have ADD, but I like to call myself vivacious and creative.  Euphemisms for sloppy and disorganized are always fun. In fact, usually my [...]

by JezuzFree
Note by Laura: JezuzFree wrote this beautiful poem and I thought I’d share. His blog can be found here.
A word about this poem by JezuzFree: I wrote this as my parting prayer, as it was the very last day that I considered myself a Christian, even though prior to that I had been [...]

by Jenn
(If you have a story about fundamentalism or time in the ministry, shoot me an email at redheadedskpetic@gmail.com. I am not necessarily looking for de-conversion stories, as there are already some great sites that cater to those: see de-Conversion or Ex-Christian.net though those are fine, too. Mostly, I am looking for the ways following [...]

Mark Driscoll, the pastor I love to hate, gave several ways to help the pastor’s wife. Here is his outline with my thoughts. The video can be found here.
1. The wife needs a clearly defined and guarded role.
Yes and no. He’s close, but just misses the mark.  He is right when he notes she’s not [...]

It’s supposed to be attractive for women to be as naive as I was. In a rare conversation that included both my parents, my mom told me, “A girl who is modest, who wears longer skirts instead of short skirts, is much more attractive to a guy. Knees are just ugly!” She turned to my [...]