My Story
Mostly what I do is tell what I remember about growing up Baptist and being a Baptist minister’s wife as I remember it, interspersed with things that interest me. As time goes on, however, I am seeing a need for some order. Here are the posts that tell who I am and where I came from in the order it all happened. Note that it doesn’t run like a 20 part series on the story of my life. This just gives it some order. Also, as I’m linking, I am noticing how many holes are really there. I will do my best to fill them over the next few weeks/months–however long it takes!
If you’re mostly interested in how it all fell apart, scroll down to the bottom of the page and click on “The Most Harm, Part One,” which begins the series of posts I wrote on the end of my marriage and time in the ministry.
And for those who have no desire to read anything else I’ve written, here is my story in a tiny nutshell: Born to fundamentalist parents, raised fundamentalist, went to a conservative Baptist school, eschewed fundamentalism for conservative/moderate Christianity, got married to a Baptist minister, Baptist minister orchestrated an event where he invited his friend into the bedroom and instructed his friend to have sex with me, Baptist minister and I separate, I become a liberal Christian, get divorced, and become an atheist. For the details, click below!
As a Child, Teenager, and College Student (Before Marriage):
- Dear God: I Just Want My Parents Back, Please
- Life Without God’s Love
- My School
- Grandpa, Do We Come from Monkeys?
- The Nightmares in the Bible
- A Date With Ken Ham
- Let There Be No Separation of Church and State
- Developing a Love for Math and Science
- Surely Goodness and Mercy
- Gothardite
- My Life as a CD Burner
- Joey
- The Dad Shaped Hole
- Something Special
- Safe
- Skirts
- I’m Sorry
- The Pastor’s Deception
- The Ordinary Day That Changed My Life
- Marissa
- I Kissed Courtship Goodbye
My Life as a Minister’s Wife and Beyond:
- For an Overall, Basic Timeline: Chronologically Speaking
- Life With Bob
- Red Flags
- I Am a Person, Not a Possession
- An Embarrassing Confession
- The Secret Lives of Ministers’ Wives
- I Now Baptize You in the Name of the Father, Son, and the Holy Baptist Church
- His Soapbox
- My Garden
- Let the Little Children Come (As Long as They Bring Their Rich Parents!)
- Sermon Notes
- Pregnant, Part One and Pregnant, Part Two
- So Many! and What It’s Like to Be a Ministry Wife for an overview of ministry life
- Tithing
- My Little Pagan (this post spans memories of Halloween from my childhood through both of the churches I ministered in. It could really go anywhere!)
- What’s Your Definition of “Lunacy”?
- When It Isn’t Well With My Soul
- Cherry Picking Season
- Why I Stopped Believing in God, Part Two
- The Most Harm, Part One
- The Most Harm, Part Two
- The Most Harm, Part Three: The Fallout
- The Most Harm, Part Four: Summary and Final Thoughts
- Trashed
- Piano Bar
- My Journal (excerpts from my journal in the year or so after I left Bob, but before starting a blog)
- My Heartbreak
- Motherhood
- What I Love About Mondays
- Job-ette
- I am Going to Be a Masochist for Halloween
- It Is Finished
- Contemplations on His Wedding and Seriously? (Bob’s remarriage less than two months after our divorce. These are kind of snarky posts; I am not usually so mocking or rude. These posts aren’t me looking back–I wrote them as they happened, so keep that in mind!)
- Conversations with the Pizza Guy
- My Two Names


