I don’t know if you’ve noticed, but I have an eye problem: my right eyelid droops a bit (I edited it out of the site banner because it was too distracting, but if you look closely at some of my other pictures, you can see it). My mother insists it’s genetic because my dad has [...]

What Wives Wish Their Husbands Knew About Women: While my marriage comments are inclusive of fundamentalism as a whole, Dobson is typically conservative and arrogant about what women want (all of them, mind you, not just some). He holds a pretty traditional view on women and marriage. Submission means something different to just about everyone, [...]

Rebellion: I read Preparing for Adolescence several times throughout the course of my teenage years. I don’t remember much about it. But I do remember what it was like to be a teenager: between Gothard’s teachings and Focus on the Family’s, I didn’t have much of an adolescence. I skipped straight to adulthood. There is [...]

(Click here for part one.) I cried quietly into my pillow back at the hotel. Something had changed in the dynamic of our friendship: Bob, Steve, and me. I suddenly wondered what I was doing. Everything felt shaken up and broken. What I felt for Steve, I knew couldn’t be real. At the time still [...]

I have done my best to be 100% honest in telling my story. I am too afraid that Bob will find the blog and try to start a lawsuit or I will be humiliated like the guy from A Million Pieces to be dishonest. I have changed names and locations to protect the innocent (and [...]

Just for fun, I thought I would tell you the story of how Bob proposed. It was quite romantic. In fact, I bet it’s the most interesting love story you will read all year! I went to meet his parents in Clovis, New Mexico for spring break. That’s an interesting story itself, but I’ll skip [...]

It’s getting confusing, I think, to keep straight when I was what, so I thought I would lay it out to clear up any misunderstandings! 1980′s I think when I was born in 1983, my parents would be considered more evangelical as opposed to fundamentalist. What’s the difference? I’m not sure there is one, but [...]

Somehow, I managed to stay quite sheltered throughout my years in public school. Nerdy and awkward, it wasn’t hard for me to have no friends my first year. I attended a small private school until seventh grade, when my mother tried to homeschool me. She still worked nights, however, and wasn’t very interactive. I would [...]

It’s interesting to go back and read thoughts on the beginning of a relationship that ended badly. Sometimes, I wonder, what was I thinking?! Well, now I know!   Here is the first journal entry I ever wrote that mentioned Bob. And wow, it’s . . . well, just read it for yourselves. Sorry, Steve! [...]

I tell people I didn’t become an atheist just because I was angry at God, and that is true. One of the reasons I know this is because I did go through an angry phase right after I separated from Bob. My reasoning: I spent everything I had on pleasing God, and I lost everything: [...]