Comments on: Not All Black and White, Part Two http://www.redheadedskeptic.com/2009/11/12/not-all-black-and-white-part-two/ Fri, 12 Mar 2010 06:04:19 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9 hourly 1 By: Dannel Gomiller http://www.redheadedskeptic.com/2009/11/12/not-all-black-and-white-part-two/comment-page-1/#comment-4134 Dannel Gomiller Wed, 03 Feb 2010 00:32:17 +0000 http://redheadedskeptic.com/?p=2688#comment-4134 I just want to let you know, as a new reader, that what you described is basically what I assumed happened from the previous description and it in no way changes my opinion of you. In fact, when i read the most harm, and you got to the Mark part, all i could think was "how could Bob do that" and never really blamed Mark. Maybe I've read enough books with this sort of concept that it was easier to read between the lines. We all make mistakes nothing is black and white, but what Bob did is definitely in the WRONG category. Were you in the wrong? I would have to say, in that moment, in that situation, no. Between being drunk (which i don't think you should blame yourself for, hindsight is always 20/20), feeling like it would happen sooner or later, your training to submit, and realizing that Mark was actually concerned about whether you wanted to do it or not pushed you in the direction most people would go. I applaud you for being open and sharing something so dark and private. This is a sure sign of how far you've come! Now that you've expressed it I hope it'll help you move on and figure out even more what YOU want and how to recognize it. I just want to let you know, as a new reader, that what you described is basically what I assumed happened from the previous description and it in no way changes my opinion of you. In fact, when i read the most harm, and you got to the Mark part, all i could think was “how could Bob do that” and never really blamed Mark. Maybe I’ve read enough books with this sort of concept that it was easier to read between the lines.

We all make mistakes nothing is black and white, but what Bob did is definitely in the WRONG category. Were you in the wrong? I would have to say, in that moment, in that situation, no. Between being drunk (which i don’t think you should blame yourself for, hindsight is always 20/20), feeling like it would happen sooner or later, your training to submit, and realizing that Mark was actually concerned about whether you wanted to do it or not pushed you in the direction most people would go.

I applaud you for being open and sharing something so dark and private. This is a sure sign of how far you’ve come! Now that you’ve expressed it I hope it’ll help you move on and figure out even more what YOU want and how to recognize it.

]]> By: Not All Black and White, Part One « The Redheaded Skeptic http://www.redheadedskeptic.com/2009/11/12/not-all-black-and-white-part-two/comment-page-1/#comment-1718 Not All Black and White, Part One « The Redheaded Skeptic Fri, 11 Dec 2009 13:45:43 +0000 http://redheadedskeptic.com/?p=2688#comment-1718 [...] So for the sake of honesty, here’s that other 5%. [...] [...] So for the sake of honesty, here’s that other 5%. [...]

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